Maintaining Healthy Relationships
As the saying goes, prevention is better than cure and this is certainly the case when it comes to maintaining good relationships. Understanding what we are doing currently that is keeping the relationship healthy and what traps to avoid falling into is a great inoculation against relationship deterioration. This is particularly so when it comes to a love relationship.
All relationships are affected by the skills, attitudes and behaviours each individual brings to it. Before we can expect a relationship to be successful for the longer term, we need to ensure we are aware of and working on our own issues. For example, if we know we lack self confidence, this might need addressing so that we don’t become passive and avoidant when faced with inevitable relationship conflicts. Likewise, if we know we can be a bit quick to anger, we would be well served to address this early on.
Everyone has areas of strength and weakness – it’s a normal part of being human. Recognising this and taking steps in self development can make a world of difference to your relationships.
There are some key areas that will help keep a relationship healthy:
Developing excellent communication skills and commitment to using them
Each person having a healthy self esteem
Knowing your own psychological needs and how to meet them
Knowing and using ‘fighting fair’ methods
Having healthy boundaries rather than unhealthy expectations of others
Understanding how our own upbringing/family of origin impacts on our love relationships
Knowing how to love your partner in HIS or HER preferred ways
Understanding the stages of love – all the way from ‘falling in love’ through to old age together.
Relationships are always changing just as individuals are always changing. Nothing stays the same and to keep love alive we need to be awake at the wheel of our relationship. We need to steer it with our partner’s help and not take the good things for granted. Don’t put your relationship on auto pilot and hope it goes in the right direction. We urge you to take the time to learn more about keeping your relationship healthy and happy. It may be the best thing you ever do.